Q: My husband and I have a 4-year-old grandson. His mother, our daughter-in-law, is a professional photographer who posts photos of her boy on social media at least once every day, stating how exceptionally wonderful, smart, special, you-name-it he is.
To me it is over the top. Yet no one in her sphere posts anything other than yes he's wonderful, special, blah blah blah, which seems only to encourage this.
Am I missing anything here?
A: What you're missing is the commentary of those who share your nausea and choose not to type what they really think. No doubt the temptation is strong — however, the cost-benefit analysis of telling a rapturous mom to get over herself heavily favors just hiding her from one's feed.
Presumably you don't unfriend her because of the photos (at least you have those) or the politics.
These limit your choices to block it or bear it. The latter might be easier if you treat her excesses as the work not of a person, but of a persona. Social media is all a curated view, and good taste and judgment aren't, let's say, givens.
Wife should open up to her husband
Q: I have two children, 1 and 3. My husband and I always talked about having two. I am having a hard time coming to terms with not having more children.
I don't think he would be on board with more. But how do I know if I'm done?
A: This will come out snarky, but its intent is sincere: Please don't consider having any more children until you're able to talk to your husband about things like whether to have more children.
Just talk to the guy, please. Finding a way to discuss the children you want will also serve the children you have.